There’s always the allure of finding something better or just different.When you know someone in common, there’s a bit of reputation on the line so you behave differently. They will be constantly on the spiritual rise and if you don’t rise with them, you will most likely grow apart. The work they have been commissioned by a prophet of God to fulfill. Everyone is different, (and feel free to disagree with me here), but when a missionary gets one of those letters, it could be a few days before they snap out of the distraction that this creates. Did you download the LDS Missionary countdown app on your smartphone? If you are dating someone who is a voluntary servant of the Lord and who desires to serve God full-time for as long as missionaries do, you have found a winner! Here are some tips on how you can keep your relationship strong across the seemingly un-ending time you will be waiting for them. Not only will this bless your relationship with Elder Right or Sister Superstar, but more importantly, it will improve your relationship with God. “Leaving behind all other personal affairs.” The honest truth is that a letter going into depth about how you remember that time when you cuddled under the stars and had your first kiss and other romantic intimate moments that you may have experienced together is just plain inappropriate. Just think about it this way, for every distracting love letter you send, you may be taking away from the work that they are there to do.
The excess of choice made me wary of missing out on my perfect match. To make sure I wouldn’t miss out, I designed a rigorous first-date process. I went on 150 first dates but didn’t manage to find the One. At some point, we got lost and I used this opportunity to steal a magical first kiss. I wanted to tell her that I liked her, but I was anxious that she wouldn’t.In my sample of 150, not once did a girl take the initiative, pick a place, and invite me. It is a very time, resource, and attention consuming thing. I met smart girls, pretty girls, fun girls and weird girls and it was great even though in the end, I didn’t find my soulmate.I’m told it’s fear of appearing desperate, but fuck that! The whole point of automating was precisely to make it not so. PS: I will not open-source the code since it could be used to hurt people, but I might share it if you ask nicely.Another issue is that culturally relationships are driven by men, at least in the first innings. Who knows, perhaps I’ll find my special someone through this post?This is different in the more progressive Scandinavian cultures. I want to thank the amazing women who participated involuntarily in this experiment.